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Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)

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Ethical Non-Monogamy, also known as Consensual Non-Monogamy, is a form of intimate relationship where the individuals involved have agreed to engage in sexual and/or romantic relationships with more than one person, with the explicit knowledge and consent of all parties involved. This type of relationship can take various forms, such as:

  • Polyamory

  • Open relationships

  • Swinging

  • Solo Poly

  • Triads / Thruples / Quads / Polycules

  • 'Monogomish' relationships

  • Relationship Anarchy

Ethical non-monogamy is based on the principle of informed consent, which means that all parties involved have a clear understanding of the nature and boundaries of the relationship. This involves open and honest communication between all parties about their desires, needs, and expectations, as well as any concerns or issues that may arise. It is important to establish boundaries and rules that are respectful and considerate of everyone involved, and to revisit and adjust them as needed over time.

One of the key benefits of ethical non-monogamy is that it allows individuals to explore and express their sexuality and romantic desires in a way that is consensual and respectful. It provides an opportunity for individuals to experience love and intimacy in a way that is not limited by societal norms and expectations.

For some, ethical non-monogamy can also foster a sense of community and connection with others who share similar values and experiences.

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However, ethical non-monogamy is not for everyone. It requires a high level of trust, communication, and emotional maturity from all parties involved. It also requires a willingness to challenge traditional notions of monogamy and to confront any societal stigma or discrimination that may arise. It is important to recognise that ethical non-monogamy is not always a solution to problems in a relationship, nor is it a way to escape commitment or responsibility.

Whatever the form of ethical non-monogamy, it is important to establish clear boundaries and agreements. This can include guidelines around safe sex practices, the sharing of emotional and physical intimacy, and the disclosure of other partners. It is also important to establish boundaries around communication and transparency, as well as to prioritise the emotional well-being of everyone involved.

We offer relationship coaching for individuals, couples and communities practising all types of non-monogamy. Whether you are new to ENM and want help figuring things out. Or have years of experience and have unique challenges you want to work through.


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