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ENM Australia

Ethical Non-Monogamy:

Ethical non-monogamy is a form of intimate relationship where the individuals involved have agreed to engage in sexual and/or romantic relationships with more than one person, with the explicit knowledge and consent of all parties involved.

Welcome to Australia’s newest hub for those living, or interested in exploring, alternative relationship dynamics. We support couples, individuals, polycules and communities living all types of ethical non-monogamy, from polyamory to open relationships. We also offer education and support for those interested in kink, lifestyle D/s, those practicing sex work and those that date sex workers. We are also a place for media outlets, therapists and relationship coaches to get greater support and understanding directly from the communities that are engaging in these practices. Visit our Learn section to find out more. 

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James Buckley

Somatic Sex and Relationship Coach

James has been living in non-monogamous relationships for 15 years and has been a proud member of the kink scene for ten. During his time in London he founded the Alternative Relationship Collective (ARC), a curated community of over 150 people who were all practising various forms of ethical non-monogamy. He has lived experience in almost every form of ENM dynamic and has run workshops in ENM and Lifestyle Kink (D/s) in both London and Sydney. He studied sex and relationship coaching at The Somatica Institute of Sex and Relationship Coaching out of San Francisco, where he learnt the unique style of coaching he now practises. This type of relationship coaching can include sharing genuine erotic energy and connection with clients and can also involve touch.
The coaching is always adapted to suit the personal boundaries of his clients and within the boundaries of the Somatica Method.
These boundaries are: clothes on, no kissing on the mouth, no touching towards orgasm.


IMPORTANT NOTE: this approach is only a small part of the style that we offer. No one is going to be touched that doesn’t want that to be a part of their coaching. No one will be touching a coach without that coach also consenting.

Book for all things:

  • Non-monogamy: including polyamory, open relationships, swinging, solo poly, relationship anarchy

  • Jealousy management 

  • Kink / BDSM 

  • Sex workers / those dating sex workers

  • Sex and relationship coaching: attachment issues, unlocking desire, intimacy, performance and dating coaching

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Unlock a world of pleasure and exploration with our expert team at ENM Australia, where we celebrate the different forms of intimacy. Looking to explore your longings with the guidance of an experienced Kink Coach in Sydney? Our accomplished coaches give a safe and judgment-free space to dive into the domains of kink, helping individuals and couples explore their unique paths of pleasure.

For those seeking a more profound understanding and mastery of BDSM practices, our BDSM Coach in Sydney is here to direct you on an excursion of consensual exploration. Our educated BDSM coaches offer customised experiences / workshops that blend with your particular interests and limits, creating an enriching and empowering experience.

Welcome to a space where passion meets expertise. Our sexologists bring an abundance of information and a compassionate way to deal with and address a scope of intimate worries. Whether you're seeking guidance on sexual health, communication, or performance, our Sexologist Sydney services are tailored to meet your individual necessities, promoting a fulfilling and satisfying sex life.

Sex and Relationship Coaching is not psychotherapy. I am not a physician, psychiatrist, psychologist, licensed social worker or licensed marriage and family therapist, and I do not offer therapy, psychotherapy or medical advice.

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